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Can You Love Someone And Cheat On Them?

# 51  24/10/2012 17:17

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you confusing sex with sleeping...

# 52  18/11/2012 19:29

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It doesn't mean you don't love someone because you cheated on them. I've cheated on my husband and he has on me. But the thought of us leaving each other because of it, doesn't come to are mind. Having a threesome is cheating but I guess that makes it alright because you included him. Remember it's just sex.

# 53  19/11/2012 00:34

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budweiser1984 wrote:

It doesn't mean you don't love someone because you cheated on them. I've cheated on my husband and he has on me. But the thought of us leaving each other because of it, doesn't come to are mind. Having a threesome is cheating but I guess that makes it alright because you included him. Remember it's just sex.

hmm. I suppose that sharing is okay as long as no one gets hurt! i know that men tend to enjoy having there cake and eating it too, but not many women accpt that. I wonder what your relationship would be like if every night was a new adventure fo ust you and him. I would hope that if you are open minded individuals, that you should be able to role play and keep your bedroom scene hot and adventurios without involving others. You may catch a break here and there with a no string attached situation, but whta happens when one of these fantasies turn into a fatal attraction! One that could and can be avoided by not putting your marriage in harms way. Just saying! better sfe then sorry.

# 54  20/11/2012 21:31

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For me personally the answer is no....I was married and loved my husband very much....if your in love with ur spouse then in my opinion you would not want to be with anyone else.....

# 55  21/11/2012 03:17

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My wife died 12 years she has been gone.I got stop thinking i can find someone like her she was my live for 25 years.If I dont find someone that is ok.To have the love we both had was the best I miss her.I know she would say you can love again but I am number 1. I hope I can find Love .You will find the right guy who loves you back.  Move on an find the love of your life you will have no problem finding him.your are good looking and young .Dont wait I hope you find the Iove I had.Be happy dont wait like me it took 12years of feeling sorry for myself because she was gone.I lost all that time dont let that happen to you or you might be old me LOL

# 56  21/11/2012 12:34

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This topic is dumb you already know the answer to your question. Although in a relationship somone may cheat because being together so long they may have lost the passion being together so long. Lots of people cheat because they mistake that for the love they feel. For those it takes cheating to realize what they have had. But that gives no one an excuse to do it. If there is a lack of passion or communication that is ether one or both partners faults. It is pure lazyness in my opinion. If you need to cheat to be reminded about what u have then your not putting in enough work yourself to fix the situation. So your not worth being worth anyway. Personal experience. It is never worth cheating on somone. i never did but my x wife did. By the time she figured out what she had it was to late. one slip up would have been forgivable. Im in the army i cant always be around. But asking a question like that proves the intent making in a continuous thing. No its not ok. You would be messing up your own life and dessicrating the word itself. Love has a meaning dont make in meaningless. Plus if u loved somome you wouldnt want to hurt them. Dumb question.

# 57  21/11/2012 17:38

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peachy888 wrote:

Do you think it is possible to love your spouse and still be able to cheat on them? I know every situation is different and the reasons people cheat are variable but does cheating necessarily cancel out love?

# 58  14/01/2013 01:35

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NO NO NO !

# 59  15/01/2013 08:37

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been there,done that,if u cheat theres something missing in your relationship,fix it or leave but if trely  u love the peron u wont cheat

# 60  02/02/2013 04:51

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it kind of depends on you if u love him/her as ur love of ur life what do u think if u think this is a loveless life ditch him/her its the best for u both

# 61  25/06/2013 13:45

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budweiser1984 wrote:

It doesn't mean you don't love someone because you cheated on them. I've cheated on my husband and he has on me. But the thought of us leaving each other because of it, doesn't come to are mind. Having a threesome is cheating but I guess that makes it alright because you included him. Remember it's just sex.

# 62  26/06/2013 06:41

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Cheating is not just sex, Its breaking a commitment to be monogamous . Unless said relationship dictates you are free to do so.  . You can still have feelings for someone after you cheat. but if they find out, you may not get those reciprocated ever again.

Because for it to be cheating it means you are doing it behind their back and it would hurt them or they would disapprove. THERFORE showing you really don't care about your partners feelings. So it would mean you put yourself above your partner you supposedly said you love. Showing no consideration.
An open relationship or swinging is a whole different ball game

# 63  26/06/2013 10:03

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Never would break the trust by cheating.Its how trust & hearts are sacrificed.I only need 1 woman.I dont want it done 2 me.

# 64  03/07/2013 03:53

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peachy888 wrote:

Do you think it is possible to love your spouse and still be able to cheat on them? I know every situation is different and the reasons people cheat are variable but does cheating necessarily cancel out love?

yes one can cheat their own love or spouse.... it is wired to hear n think but it is true as the law of nature; attraction o lust.

# 65  19/07/2013 15:43

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Love , TRUST and communication make a strong relationship however, I believe it is possible to have an affair and still love your spouse sex is a physical need love is mental , emotional and security issue.

# 66  15/08/2013 20:34

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I couldn't and I can't. Of course, I've tried but couldn't do it.

# 67  30/08/2013 15:21

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I feel the person whom cheats isn't owning one's innerpeace. Maybe has never owned and only looks to the external to find pleasure. I feel two people whom love themselves create an unbreakable bond.

# 68  04/09/2013 12:35

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yes you can , you not suppost to but is not only possible,  is very real  that many do it and thats why guilt gets the cheater becuse there is love now you compare to a cheater that dont love their partner and there is no guilt the cheater enjoys it for reasons that 0nly she/he knows  I done it and pay the biggest prize  that i could pay , me been 16 didnt at the time didnt help me to be forgiving cause at the age of 16 is a fact that we can and will make bad choices and i did now im 40 and alone cause my wife held on to the hurt I caused, and after years of unxplain things happening around me to make a long story short my wife decide some 20 years ago ( cause we was on our 26th  )  become a amateur porn actress and manage to keep  it a secret till up to a few yrs back from now and while she was having good wife sex only till not too long  ago she confess to knowing more about se than what she led me to belive, there is plenty more but i rather sllep now

# 69  26/06/2012 20:59

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mptyson wrote:

Do you think it is possible to love your spouse and still be able to cheat on them? I know every situation is different and the reasons people cheat are variable but does cheating necessarily cancel out love?

if you cheat then you have no right to be in that relationship. You show no respect to your partner or love. You wouldnt like them to do that to you, so why do it to them?

# 70  25/09/2013 03:53

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Simply no. the love is gone before you cheat. Instead it's the need for familiar companionship that's mistaken for love.

# 71  06/10/2013 22:54

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RajKundan wrote:

Kalifornia74 wrote:

alex3865 wrote:

I think love goes hand in hand with respect.  If you cheat , you must seriously ask yourself the question,  do i really respect my partner so little? If the answer is yes, then you have no right being in a relationship with them!

Very well put!! An intelligent answer from a very handsome man. Gives me hope that true love and such people still exsist in this world.

Thank you

I agree with you...perfect reply

# 72  10/07/2012 12:33

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alex3865 wrote:

I think love goes hand in hand with respect.  If you cheat , you must seriously ask yourself the question,  do i really respect my partner so little? If the answer is yes, then you have no right being in a relationship with them!

# 73  10/07/2012 15:49

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In a word NO

# 74  20/09/2012 12:01

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married 20 ears and so in love with her would never leave,
but told to f off any time i try to put my arms around her means cheating is what keeps me sane.

# 75  20/09/2012 13:09

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Whats the point of being with someone i you are just going to cheat on them? If you cant stay with just one person you may as well stay single.